This week is “Mental Health Awareness Week”
Stress and anxiety can be caused by many life experiences, yet how we deal with our life experiences can often be influenced from when we were young.
For some, their fight or flight will protect them from their chidlhood experiences, yet unconsciously cause stress and anxiety relating to certain experiences that the individual can’t explain why they feel like they doo!
A prime example is the recent social media post by the celebrity Jason Manford. A successful celeb yet expressing his experience of stress/anxiety.
For many the thought of success, financial abundance, living their dream and much more would bring happiness. So why would someone like Jason Manning or anyone else suffer.
Naturally I don’t know the full details of the celebrity, but often it can be from just how an individual is programmed.
Workplace support and social media now encourages people to be more open, yet for some this is still bringing the risk of their careers being holted due to management views/opinions.
I’m not saying all managers or business owners view people who suffer from stress/anxiety negatively, but the reality is that it’s still happening out there. And this alone can cause stress, anxiety or depression.
We are seeing an influx on mindfulness in the workplace being applied which is great. But is it a sticky plaster approach? Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) being applied for workplace and life stress, yet for some they still suffer!
Attending group talks to express your feelings, concerns, worries etc is great. It provides a safe place to be part of a group and have an outlet to feel supported. But does this come with a risk I ask?
From childhood, people are taught and influenced to be part of a community, be part of a gang, club, organisation etc etc. Unconsciously this can also impact on an individuals locus of control when building coping strategies which has the by-product of requiring external environments to progress, deal with situations and much more. I’m not suggesting everyone go about their own business and not be part of something.
No, what I am suggesting is that if an individual looks to the outside world for answers and blame, then if they are taught to have a more internal locus of control, then their unconscious mind has the ability and empowerment from within to address matters that are impacting on the individual, and understand what they can and can’t influence. So they can seek help and support where appropriate. On the other end of the spectrum when working with Locus of Control, some people take on too much responsibility and ownership of outcomes. This can be equally harmful if the individual isn’t aware of this. So there’s a fine balance.
If you’re not familiar with Locus of Control, I explain more in my book. Knowing where you are positioned on the spectrum of the Locus of Control is one thing. Learning how to adjust your position is another thing.
When helping clients to adjust their programming that governs their minds’ perception of Locus of Control, we can’t just apply technuques to overide the old habitual ways of thinking. Short term, yes it may help, but long term I feel it just merely creates a ticking time bomb, and for many, impacts on their health with devastating consequences on their immune system in later life.
So rather than just apply sticky plasters, I encourage clients to go deep into their programming, naturally with my support and guidance, and we then build a strategy to strengthen their thought process. No matter how big the mountain may seem.
Over time, this can lead to a very strong mindset which is able to prevent stress/anxiety or depression occurring again.
I also feel it’s important to truly undertstand the momentum of interest around “Law of Attraction”
Far to often I now hear people talking about Law of Attraction when it comes to success in personal and business life that involves financial abundance. Yet, when I ask people about the detail, it would seem pretty limited the information I recieve back in response!
Oh, don’t worry they say, If I can think it and believe it, then it will definitely happen.
But hang on a minute I say.
Yes, if we can think it and believe it, then yes it can be created. But is there a bit in the middle that is missing, that so often clients are not informed of? I feel so!
Let’s be honest here, you wouldn’t start a business without a business plan, nor would you approach each year with the same personal or business plan you started with many years ago. Or would you?
As explored from the content within my book, in order to project our vision, we first have to understand the detail. I don’t think it’s enough to just put the vision out there in the ether and expect it to happen. That would be down to pure luck I feel, and would certainly cause stress/anxiety or even depression long term if things didn’t pan out like the individual hoped for. Sometimes even leading to the individual losing their self-confidence.
If we understand the steps we need to take, then the actions will follow as long as we know how to apply the emotional drivers, have key milestone markers and rewards at vairous points.
Once we have created the strategy, we then need to ensure we work on our resilience and tenacity.
This leads me to my next aspect of this article – “Growth Planning”.
Are you working with a 90 day growth plan? Maybe its a 30 or 60 day business/personal improvement plan which seem to be cropping up? This is great, but please remember, where does the improvement plan fit within your medium to long term plannning?
Ensuring your improvement/growth plan fits within the medium to long term plan will prevent your mind switching off after a while.
What do I mean? Simple! If you train your mind to work to a 30/60/90 business or personal improvement plan, and at the end of the initial period, you then set yourself another 30/60/90 plan, and keep repeating this process, at some point your mind is going to switch off and feel exhausted, with also the potential for long term stress implications on your immune system.
If I can suggest a slight variance, by all means have a 30/60/90 day improvement plan, but please ensure it fits within your milestone markers of your medium to long term plan. This way, your mind won’t fatigue and switch your immune system off in your later years.
Have a plan for your short, medium and long term vision, and equally as important, a plan for when you eventually cease working.
If you’d like to know more about the work I do with private clients, please don’t hesitate to contact me directly on 07990629643, or even explore the book – How To Build On Tectonic Plates
Author of How To Build On Tectonic Plates